The Repair Checklist

A Practical, Step-by-Step Guide to Working Through Conflict and Rebuilding Connection

When conflict happens in your relationship, it’s easy to say the wrong thing—or nothing at all. But repair is possible. And it starts with clarity, ownership, and the right kind of communication.

The Repair Checklist gives you a calm, proven process for working through conflict and emotional injury—whether it happened five minutes ago or five years ago.

You don’t need to be perfect. You just need to show up with intention. This checklist shows you how.

✅ Inside the Checklist, You’ll Find:

• 🧘 Remain Calm — how to ground yourself before you respond
• 🗣️ Accept Responsibility — own your part without defensiveness
• 👂 Acknowledge Their Perspective — listen to understand, not just reply
• 💬 Respond Thoughtfully — phrases and principles for empathy and accountability
• 🤝 Reconcile and Move Forward — how to rebuild trust and create a plan
• 📝 Success Strategies: Do’s and Don’ts — a cheat sheet for what helps and what hurts
• 🔁 Reflection + Tracking Pages — track your repair efforts and learn as you go

🧠 Designed For:

• People who want to repair after conflict, hurt, or shutdown
• Individuals working alone to improve or save their marriage
• Anyone who wants a calm, non-clinical, emotionally intelligent guide to reconnection

🧰 Why This Checklist Works

• Step-by-step format makes it easy to follow under stress
• Focuses on emotional presence, not perfection
• Helps you repair relational safety and build trust over time
• Based on decades of experience coaching people through relational crisis and healing

💡 Whether You’re in the Middle of a Conflict or Looking Back on One...

This tool will help you repair with respect, clarity, and care.