When They’re Not Trying: A Guide to Leading with Hope Without Losing Yourself

What do you do when your spouse has stopped trying… but you’re not ready to give up?

Most advice assumes two people are working together. But what if you're the only one doing the work?
That doesn’t mean you’re powerless—it means you’re holding the thread.

When They’re Not Trying is a lifeline for those who feel alone in the effort. It’s not about fixing your spouse. It’s about becoming the strongest, clearest, most grounded version of yourself while still holding space for change.

You don’t need to chase.
You don’t need to beg.
You can lead—with love, integrity, and wisdom.

💡 Inside this training package, you'll get:

📘 The 12-page digital guide, beautifully designed for clarity and encouragement, covering:

• How to stop chasing and start leading with calm, purpose, and influence
• What to do when you feel stuck, disconnected, or overwhelmed
• The 3 A’s of Control (Aspirations, Attitude, and Actions)—a powerful framework for reclaiming traction and agency
• Why emotional steadiness is stronger than emotional pleading
• How to find meaning even when your spouse is silent, distant, or resistant
• How to stay grounded, hopeful, and present without losing yourself
• A clear strategy for moving forward—even if nothing changes

🎧 Five audio trainings that speak directly to your deepest questions:

1. Calming Your Inner Storm – Regain control over the fear, sadness, and stress that build up when you’re carrying the marriage alone.
2. Your Spouse Is Not the Enemy – Learn how to reconnect without defensiveness or emotional combat.
3. Your Marriage Vision – Clarify your direction so you can lead with intention—not desperation.
4. The 3 Barriers – Understand the three things that keep your spouse from engaging (Helplessness, Hopelessness, and Hurt) and how to meet each one wisely.
5. Why Your Spouse Won’t Work On It – Get clarity on what’s really behind their disengagement—and what you can (and can’t) do about it.

💬 Why it matters:

You’re not broken.
You’re not codependent.
You’re not naive.

You’re someone brave enough to believe that one person’s effort can begin a shift.
This guide will help you do that—without sacrificing your dignity, clarity, or sanity.

💝 You’ll walk away with:

• A renewed sense of peace and personal power
• Tools to move forward when you're tired of trying alone
• Clarity on how to connect without chasing
• Language that helps you lead instead of pressure
• Emotional resilience and hope, even in uncertainty